Maybe you have been accused of giving your kids either not enough freedom or too much freedom. Because people like to put other people in neat little boxes, they want to put you in either the box marked: HELICOPTER PARENTS or the box marked: LAZY NEGLECTFUL PARENTS. Just for the sake of convenience.
|These are bee boxes. But you get the idea.|
One interesting part of being an unschooling parent is having lots of opportunities to be accused of being too controlling AND not controlling enough, sometimes by the same person, in the same conversation. Here's how it goes:
Person: Where is your daughter going to school next year?
Me: She is not going to school.
Person: So you're homeschooling?
Me: Sort of, in that we aren't sending our kids to school.
Person: Aren't you worried about socialization?
Me: Nope. I'm not worried about socialization.
Person: Don't you think you are being too controlling by not giving her the freedom to go to school? To get exposed to different people and ideas?
Me: She can go to school if she wants to. She doesn't want to right now. And she will be exposed to many different people and ideas through real life experiences.
Person: So you will buy a curriculum and teach her at home?
Me: Nope. My kids have learned everything so far from just living. We are going to continue on that path.
Person: Don't you think you are giving her too much freedom by letting her choose what she wants to learn?
Wait a minute... What exactly IS this person's objection? Am I giving too much freedom or too little freedom?
Maybe he is just confused because I don't fit into either one of his neat little boxes. If this person insists on putting me into a box, I would suggest he get a new box and mark it: OTHER. Or maybe we should all ditch the box system, because judging other parents isn't really ever that simple.
What's the most common criticism you get about your parenting style? How do you respond?