|These two have showed me just how wrong I was...
Things I Wish I Had Never Said
- I would never let my children leave the house with messy hair. Boy was I wrong about that. My daughter has curly hair and she does not like having it combed.
- I would never let my children eat that (whatever it is). Turns out, I would. As long as it's fit for human consumption.
- I would never let my children watch television all day. Wrong again. Sometimes, they watch television all day. We watch together. We run around, dance, climb, learn, get inspired while we watch. Or we just sit and watch.
- I would never let my home be taken over by toys. That was just silly. It's their home too. And it's quite small. And toys are fun!
- I would never let my home be a mess. Yes. Yes I would. Cleaning up is just not as important anymore. And sometimes, the mess is beautiful. The mess means the kids have been enjoying themselves.
Their preferences matter to me. They matter more than the vision of an "ideal child" I used to cling to. I know now that am not here to make my children into who I want them to be, but instead to let them be who they are. I don't worry about who they will be someday, I just enjoy who they are. Right now.
I also don't worry (much) about what other people think of me as a parent, or at least I try to take the criticism in stride (some days I'm better at that than others). I know some people will find things to criticize no matter what I do, and I can't please everyone. I find that my husband and children are the ones I really care about pleasing, and other peoples' opinions just don't matter as much.
Above all, I try not to say never too much these days. Because I never know.