|The term "pooty" came from Orange County.
Many people feel compelled to comment on the fact that she still uses it, and that she is too old for it. Some share how they were able to break their children of the habit using one trick or another.
The trick stories always include some form of the phrase It Was Easy! As it if should be just as easy for me. And maybe it was for them. But I'm not buying what they're selling. No one knows this child better than Nick and I do, and we know none of the tricks would work on her, even if we were willing to try them. We trust that it will be easy for her to give it up when she's ready, but not before then.
Here are some of the (simple!) suggestions I have gotten over the past couple of years, and some responses to them:
- Take it from her and cut off a tiny piece each day, and after about a week, she won't be able to suck on it anymore. (It's Easy!) First of all, as soon as my daughter noticed that a piece of her beloved pooty was missing, she would tell me "this one's broken, let's get a new one." Secondly, how would you feel if your husband didn't like your favorite shirt, and started cutting off little pieces of it until you couldn't wear it anymore? I know I would be pissed.
- Tell her it's time to give her pooty to a little baby, because they really are for babies. (Easiest thing in the world!) My daughter would say, "I saw lots of them at the store, let's go get one for a baby there, and I can keep mine." She's so logical. If she is a "big girl," and she still uses a pooty, then I guess pooties are not just for babies. I don't want to make my daughter feel ashamed of the fact that she uses a pacifier. And I would never want her to give it up just because she didn't want me to call her a baby.
- Have a big party to say goodbye to the pooty, and then just don't give her another one. (How Easy is that?!) Talk about pressure! How would you like it if your child arranged a party to say goodbye to your cell phone, which you probably use (and think you need, if you are like me) almost as much as she uses her pacifier? I'm guessing it wouldn't cure you of your need for you cell phone.
Every child is different. Maybe all of the people who gave the above suggestions had children who didn't know that there were millions of pacifiers available to buy in stores, and never thought to ask for a new one. Maybe their children were ready to give it up by the time they were tricked, so they really didn't care to have it suddenly taken away. Lucky them!
Or maybe it wasn't as easy as they say it was. Maybe it was easy for the parents, but not for the child. Some of the giving-up-pacifier anecdotes ended with "she only cried for it for a few nights." That would not work for us.
Did you have a pacifier, or a special toy or blanket, or suck your thumb? How old were you when you gave it up?