Thursday, February 10, 2011

Unschooling: It's Like Riding a Bicycle

If being in school is like riding a train, then traditional homeschooling is like riding in a car. Your parents are driving and you get to sit with your brothers and sisters if you have any. But other than these two common elements, the details of the car ride can vary greatly, depending on your parents' views on education.

You might have parents who buy a curriculum, which resembles the timetable similar to the one used by the school train. Your mother might take on the role of "conductor," and insist that her car keep up with the train. She might not let you have much say as far as how fast to go or what the stops will look like. You might spend as much time in the car as schooled kids do on the train.

Or you might have parents who make up their own curriculum, accepting some level of input from you. They will take your interests into account when planning activities. They will adjust the pace if they think it is necessary. They might even stop the car sometimes when you point out something interesting you see out the window. You might spend a lot less time in the car than schooled kids do on the train.

But either way, you are still sitting in the backseat, having at least somewhat of a passive role in your educational journey and your life overall. The car, like the train, separates "learning time" from the real world, which you are still looking at through a window. The car follows streets, like the train follows tracks. There may be more than one path between two stops now, but you are still confined to the streets.

Now imagine you are in a family who gets around on bicycles instead of trains or cars...

Some days, your mom says, "Want to go for a ride? I have something cool I want to show you." If you want to go, you hop on the bike and go. Some days, you are the one who has something cool you want to explore, and your mom or siblings or dad ride along.  And some days, one or some or all of you are tired and you stay home and watch movies or cook or read or play video games all day. But every day, you have the choice of what to do.

Your own bicycle is powered by your own legs, steered by your own hands. It stops when you stop, goes where you want to go. But it's not that you are always responsible for your own movement. You are not just left to figure it out for yourself. When you prefer to have some level of assistance getting where you want to go, you also have tandem bicycles and bike trailers available to you. You get to choose if you want help and what kind and how much. And your parents are ready to help whenever and however you want them to.

One more option: the family cycle
No matter which kind of bicycle you are on, there is no separation between you and the outside world. No window to look out. You can smell the real world, hear the real world, stop and touch the real world. You are part of the real world. There are paths to follow if you want to, but your rides are not limited to the paths.

In your family, no one is the teacher, but everyone learns from all the others. It is not that your time on your bicycle is your "education." Every day is your life, no matter how it is spent. Time on your bicycle is not valued more than time spent walking or running or sitting still. Your choosing to do something makes it valuable. You learn from all things you do, but the learning does not need to be measured. Your parents don't keep track of how fast or how far you go each day. You get to learn what you want at your own pace. You don't have to keep up with anyone else.

That is unschooling. It is not a model of education, but a way of life. It is recognizing that people learn from living, and there is no need to separate learning from living. Unschooling lets a family live together, learn together. It is built on trust among family members, and trust in human nature. Trust that children have a strong desire to learn about things, even if those things may not be on the short list of school subjects. Trust that, with your acceptance and support, your child will follow his own path, leading exactly where he wants to go.

20 comments:

  1. the kids in that top pic- straight chillen

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  2. Read a little, try a little, watch. :)

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  3. we vacillate between Off Road Jeep and Bikes. (some destinations and roads are a bit too complex for our bikes)

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  4. Thank you for this and the train analogy. I will keep your postings handy for days I am unsure of the path we have chosen. I will also keep it handy for the day we chose to tell my parents that we have chosen to unschool.

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  5. @V, Thanks! I know it can be difficult to tell people who you think will not be supportive. I hope your parents will keep their minds open. I know it's possible because mine have been incredibly open to the idea. Good luck!

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  6. How fun! I used a bicycle analogy yesterday (2/14), that you know when they're learning to ride a bike when you're holding the fender for them and they move faster than you can and they're gone.

    You know they're learning something when they DO the thing (or know or use the thing).

    Robyn Coburn wrote something train and bike related a few years ago. I'm not sure when (I've started dating things more carefully) but a few years, as it has a gate at the bottom rather than the four trees. http://sandradodd.com/park

    I would like to add yours to my site somewhere too, if that's okay with you.

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  7. OK so is unschooling calling for the end to formal public education? I'm trying to wrap my head around the concept.

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  8. It's not a replacement for public school. Not everyone could even do it. Few can.

    It's an alternative, for those who can and want to invest a lot of time and energy in creating a constantly rich environment.

    In public school terms, it's the open classroom, without the restrictions of the classroom and the school schedule.

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  9. @Walter, It's what Sandra said above.

    But to add to that, my point is not to say that this lifestyle is for everyone. I know it's not. BUT I think that mainstream educators can learn something from the unschooling perspective. Mainly, that kids are don't need to be dragged along tracks for learning to take place. Kids need more play to play and explore, and less time be told what to do and how to think.

    I think it is possible, and would be enormously beneficial, to give all kids more freedom, even within a public school setting.

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  10. I'm starting to realize we are unschoolers, but I don't call it that. I don't like connotation of the term. Living and learning, child-led, living an educational life, US-school. I enjoyed your train, car and bicycle analogy. I will probably use it when trying to describe how we learn. It really is a big difference. :)

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  11. @wonderinthewoods, I know what you mean. I don't love the term either, but it is a good way to connect with other people with some of the same ideas. Glad you like the analogy. :)

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  12. So glad I found your blog! What fabulous analogies...we are slowly giving up our car and getting out and about on our bikes a bit more. It's hard to let go - we are not very fit - but we do enjoy it when we do!

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  13. Hi Vickie,

    We are homeschoolers and thinking of moving towards unschooling. My Wife found this post and showed it to me....and being a passionate cyclist, this one really spoke to me. Thanks for providing such great information and using the bicycle analogy was super cool.

    I am going to do a post about this concept and will be linking to your article for sure.

    Great job on the post.


    Darryl

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    1. I'm so happy to hear that, Darryl! I would love to read your post when you write it, so feel free to come back here and drop a link. :)

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  14. Hello! :) I just stumbled across your blog and absolutely love this post – what a brilliant analogy! I'm sharing this on Facebook, and will definitely be following your future posts with interest.

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  15. I like your analogy! Thank you for this insight!

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  16. Haha I love this analogy! I love the idea...but I don't know if I can do it. Maybe car rides some days and bike rides for others. =)

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  17. I want to embrace this so badly but I just don’t know how. How do they learn things like Logic or Latin or Algebra in regular life?? Help! I have GOT to get off the traditional curriculum at home train.

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    1. Hi Emily,

      Try to think about how most of the adults in the world don’t know Latin or remember most of what they learned about algebra. Think about how your kids learned things as babies. Babies don’t need curriculum to learn how to talk and walk. They figure things out from watching, and from a natural inclination to WANT to learn. Kids learn what they need to know, when they need to know it. :)

      My advice would be to read a lot about unschooling, and to go slowly when implementing any changes in this direction. If you change things too drastically and then pull back out of fear, that’s confusing for everyone.

      It has been almost 9 years since I wrote this post. My kids are older now. They are 13, 10, and 6. They still have never been to school, I’ve never forced any formal teaching on them, and I get to watch them learn new things every single day. We have lots of fun and lots of great conversations. It’s working.

      Good luck to you on your journey. <3

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