tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post1124161163588347333..comments2023-06-25T04:10:55.573-04:00Comments on Demand EUPHORIA: Ten Ways To Confuse a ChildVickie@Demand_Euphoriahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-21887984455777343452013-03-24T09:01:51.344-04:002013-03-24T09:01:51.344-04:00I just wanted to make sure you saw my reply, becau...I just wanted to make sure you saw my reply, because it looks like it posted as a separate comment instead of a reply directly to you. I would love it if you translates this into Spanish! Just link to me if you so it, and come back here and share the link so I can see it :)Vickie@Demand_Euphoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-7236163433967489792013-03-23T15:43:21.524-04:002013-03-23T15:43:21.524-04:00YES, YES, and YESSSSS!YES, YES, and YESSSSS!Kat Chaffin ^.,.^https://www.blogger.com/profile/12361403816838354511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-17951376211158567492013-03-22T12:13:41.154-04:002013-03-22T12:13:41.154-04:00I completely agree with you! I was told " be...I completely agree with you! I was told " because I am mom and I said so" all the time! I feel that if you have open communication and can rationally explain the why to your child must of the time, then the emergency " because I said so" will be much more easily accepted. your child will trust that you will explain yourself in due time. Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11796347351580169174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-34587111949414853642013-03-20T08:54:03.259-04:002013-03-20T08:54:03.259-04:00Sure! Please do link to this page when you do it :...Sure! Please do link to this page when you do it :)<br /><br />Also, can you come back here and leave the link as well? I'd love to see it. Thanks!!Vickie@Demand_Euphoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-10856944992623230782013-03-20T07:58:21.976-04:002013-03-20T07:58:21.976-04:00Can I please translate this into spanish?Can I please translate this into spanish?Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04678284458238002035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-54907303991620388172013-03-19T11:48:48.775-04:002013-03-19T11:48:48.775-04:00These are true but many of them aren't bad.. L...These are true but many of them aren't bad.. Like NOT letting a child snack before dinner because then they won't be hungry for dinner. That may be confusing for younger children but not to sound harsh, but too bad. As parents we have to do whats best, even if the child is confuse. We do the best we can too explain but bottom line is we are the parent!Christie Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18435301496669751141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-48538664554729066952011-12-16T14:42:27.588-05:002011-12-16T14:42:27.588-05:00Love it!Love it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-4939883321506433532011-12-14T16:28:01.695-05:002011-12-14T16:28:01.695-05:00I just wanted to add that this is where communicat...I just wanted to add that this is where communication comes in. My own mother has had plenty of talks with me where she has voiced concerns that I "talk to my daughters too much". She thinks I shouldn;t go into detail explaining why what they did was wrong or why they are being disciplined, etc. She thinks "because I am the mother and I said so" is sufficient. And it should be, IF absolutely necessary - like an emergency "don't move a muscle (there's a snake by you!) situation. But if you CAN, why NOT talk it out? Why not use every opportunity possible to connect with your child and to explain to them they why's...Light Dancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14518987365248269462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-50599112657450905812011-12-14T16:23:49.730-05:002011-12-14T16:23:49.730-05:00I agree with everything except the iphone example ...I agree with everything except the iphone example and the interrupting the email example. I work from home, so I am sure there is going to be plenty of that going on. My older daughters (10 and 12) sometimes like to call me out on what they view as hypocrisy but usually it is an issue of comparing apples and oranges. When it is valid, I apologize and correct my behavior. I believe strongly in minimizing hypocritical behavior, but I also believe children need to be taught that moms and dads have understanding, wisdom, responsibilities and privileges children do not and that not all behavior that could literally be interpreted as "hypocritical" actually is. Yes, you have to go to bed at 8 and I can stay up until 11....yes, you have to share your stuffed dog but you may not play with my Droid which is critical to my business. I think children have a basic understanding that there are different standards for children and adults and as they get older, if there is proper communication and respect, they understand why.Light Dancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14518987365248269462noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-64399330163498505962011-10-23T04:12:49.276-04:002011-10-23T04:12:49.276-04:00I can't believe no one has suggested adding:
...I can't believe no one has suggested adding:<br /><br />#11 - Religion.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-62812682598660142812011-10-12T00:39:30.355-04:002011-10-12T00:39:30.355-04:00Another great post... VickieAnother great post... VickieFlorida Advanced Driver Improvementhttp://www.idrivesafely.com/Florida/advanced-driver-improvement-course.htmlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-24779563988418296052011-10-06T02:39:14.691-04:002011-10-06T02:39:14.691-04:00@ Dominique
This is where it goes from confusing t...@ Dominique<br />This is where it goes from confusing to rational. The problem is that it only makes sense if you take the time to explain to the child. <br />BTW video games can pay the bills. Starcraft is a national 'sport' in Korea for example...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-42865785709975078992011-10-05T15:08:31.801-04:002011-10-05T15:08:31.801-04:00I love most of these but I agree with anonymous i ...I love most of these but I agree with anonymous i am not letting my little one have my iphone in a million years nor mine or my husbands laptop.<br /><br />Also when my little one starts paying the bills with computer games then i wont interrupt to do something i need them to do. My emails do pay the bills so therefore let me get them done first so that they can continue to pay for your video games.dominiquenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-48892961061304129042011-07-18T16:33:39.981-04:002011-07-18T16:33:39.981-04:00ill do exactly like that. after time it makes a lo...ill do exactly like that. after time it makes a lot of fun for both :)))) thanx!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-23410025244928468212011-07-05T09:58:34.254-04:002011-07-05T09:58:34.254-04:00Thank you Kat and Alison. You both took care of wh...Thank you Kat and Alison. You both took care of what I was going to say.<br /><br />@Anonymous, See Kat's comment. This post is not about what to do and what not to do, or what your right is as a parent. It's about things adults do that seem contradictory. I can see where all of these things would be confusing to a child. If you can't, then that's fine.Vickie@Demand_Euphoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-46623348529198410912011-07-04T10:56:46.108-04:002011-07-04T10:56:46.108-04:00"#6-Hitting out of anger and tapping on the b..."#6-Hitting out of anger and tapping on the bottom or hand out of discipline are completely different."<br /><br />Yes, one is more or less socially acceptable, the other isn't. Beside that their both hitting. "We do NOT hit!"Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05190302692667787807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-77966641129661778902011-07-04T10:47:47.158-04:002011-07-04T10:47:47.158-04:00@ Anonymous; I have the feeling you don't get ...@ Anonymous; I have the feeling you don't get the idea behind this post. It's about confusing your child. Not so much about being wrong or right, asI see it.<br /><br />#2: I think its unsafe to teach your kids NOT to talk to strangers, but may be that is just me. People who want to hurt your child know you teach them about 'strangers' so won't act like strangers. In fact, most people who DO hurt a child are people they know. Like the family and friends in #3 who they need to hug because they are related. Tell me about it, i've been there as a little girl. Those crazy ass folks who hurt kids are -in a kids mind- nice to them. So IMO those things are separate issues. <br />#3: So, when you just visit your relatives once a year a kids has to adept and hug someone they hardly know on a personal level like that? Don't talk to strangers but you must hug them if it's feels like a stranger but in fact is a relative you hardly know. Why not let them get to know each other and wait for the child to give a real, genuine hug because he or she likes the person? Simply not wanting to is a very good reason for not-hugging by the way. In fact it is the best.<br />#5: Again, the post is about confusing. My 1 yo really doesn't know the difference between my iPhone and her toy car. My 4 yo does know but it's about the value, not the cost. My iPhone may be worth hundreds of dollars, but she values and loves some of her toys more then I do my iPhone.<br />#6: For a small child, and again we are talking about confusing situations, it is not. Really, it's not.Kathttp://www.likebumblebees.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-88747400919547378092011-07-01T09:18:58.507-04:002011-07-01T09:18:58.507-04:00#2-It's unsafe in this day and age for kids to...#2-It's unsafe in this day and age for kids to talk to strangers unless they are accompanied by you i.e. at the checkout register.<br />#3-It's important for children to show affection to their family members. I didn't want my aunt to hug me when I was little because I thought it was uncool. There's a difference between a child seriously feeling uncomfortable in a situation like that and simply not wanting to.<br />#5-You are the adult and tend to have more expensive items that can be more easily damaged than his $5 toy car. <br />#6-Hitting out of anger and tapping on the bottom or hand out of discipline are completely different.<br /><br />The other ones I don't necessarily disagree with you on. But I do still feel that the child needs to recognize there is a difference between what he is allowed to do and what mommy and daddy are allowed to do. As a parent, it is completely within your right to assert your authority with your children. I don't believe that is confusing for most children at all. When I was a child, I understood that I was a child and my parents were the parents. I trusted knew, even if I didn't quite understand exactly why I was being told no, that they knew what was best for me because they were my parents and I was their responsibility.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-58560385705974201822011-07-01T08:22:40.924-04:002011-07-01T08:22:40.924-04:00@Anonymous, I didn't include that one for a re...@Anonymous, I didn't include that one for a reason: It's not that confusing. There's a pretty easy way to explain why we don't let children cross the street alone until we are sure they can be safe.<br /><br />Try explaining the ones I actually did put on the list though. You won't find it so simple.Vickie@Demand_Euphoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-34654503584493574342011-07-01T08:10:52.177-04:002011-07-01T08:10:52.177-04:00Something to add: Tell your child they aren't...Something to add: Tell your child they aren't allowed to cross the street by themselves, but then they see you do it. (tongue-in-cheek, of course)<br /><br />I think this post lacks the understanding that there is a difference between parents and children.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-17051728514747964062011-06-05T08:10:15.634-04:002011-06-05T08:10:15.634-04:00@Alex, I agree. I can't stand hypocrisy. And k...@Alex, I agree. I can't stand hypocrisy. And kids are really good at spotting it, but they are usually powerless against it. Thanks for the comment!Vickie@Demand_Euphoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-41826426583205598362011-06-02T16:08:06.646-04:002011-06-02T16:08:06.646-04:00These are great. I really dislike hypocrisy and t...These are great. I really dislike hypocrisy and these are examples that are very obvious to a child! Very nice post. Parents ought to walk the walk!Alex | Perfecting Dadhttp://www.perfectingparenthood.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-36095959304770141202011-06-02T08:11:54.523-04:002011-06-02T08:11:54.523-04:00@mamapoekie, I know! It's a tough time to be a...@mamapoekie, I know! It's a tough time to be a child. Especially the ones who have to live with all ten of these thigns on a regular basis.<br /><br />@Lisa, It's true, it takes a lot of thought and some de-programming to avoid these things. And you are right "do as I say, not as I do" is a very silly way of parenting!Vickie@Demand_Euphoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17706946767924290485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-88100780975364328082011-06-01T09:33:09.098-04:002011-06-01T09:33:09.098-04:00This is a great post. I have caught myself doing ...This is a great post. I have caught myself doing a few of these things and have to be careful about it, as sadly, these types of responses seem to be etched into most of us and it takes some thinking before you respond to not just react like the parents in these examples.<br /><br />To the anonymous commenter, my husband and I also let my 22 month old play with our Droid and he loves the alphabet app and even knows how to "turn the pages" by himself. Just because a child is little doesn't automatically mean that they do not know how to be gentle or that they will break things.<br />We should never expect our child to act differently than us. If you want your child to eat healthy, you must eat healthy. If you want your child to wear a hat when he plays outside, then you must wear at hat outside. Now, obviously, you COULD just make them do as I say, not as I do - but it makes much more sense to them to actually be a role model.Lisanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5088188498900558941.post-85181628491975997402011-06-01T05:07:09.746-04:002011-06-01T05:07:09.746-04:00if it wasn't so painfully true, this would be ...if it wasn't so painfully true, this would be funny. Now it's just bittersweetmamapoekiehttp://www.authenticparenting.infonoreply@blogger.com